Josefine Bagger Sommerlund
It’s not about being perfect – it’s about not ruining it before dessert.
A great first impression starts with the little things – and those are often where it goes wrong.
1. Talking Too Much About Yourself
- A first date isn’t a one-man show.
- Make room for dialogue. Ask curious questions and genuinely listen.
- Skip the “me, me, me” presentation – it creates distance, not connection.
2. Ordering for Her
- It comes off as old-fashioned and controlling.
- Let her choose her own food and drink – unless she explicitly asks you to do otherwise.
- Respect and freedom are way more charming than a macho attitude.
3. Bringing Up Exes
- Exes don’t belong on a first date.
- Comparisons and old stories kill the vibe.
- Stay focused on the person in front of you – not the ones from the past.
4. Overdoing the Gentleman Act
- It’s nice to hold the door and offer your jacket.
- But going full-on with outdated gentleman roles turns it into a performance.
- Real courtesy is about timing and balance – not putting on a show.
5. Checking Your Phone
- Even a quick glance looks disinterested.
- Put your phone away, silence it, and stay present.
- Your attention matters more than your notifications.
6. Showing Off Status and Stuff
- She’s not impressed by the Tesla, the watch, or the company card – if you bring it up yourself.
- It can come across as insecurity disguised as bragging.
- Let your qualities shine naturally – no need to show off.
7. Being Too Passive
- “We can do whatever you want” sounds unengaged.
- Offer a clear suggestion – and be open to her input.
- Initiative and planning show interest and confidence.
8. Drinking Too Much
- Two beers might be fine – three can tip the balance.
- Avoid getting loud, sentimental, or blurry.
- The clear and present version of you is the best one.
9. Small (or Big) Lies
- Exaggerations get spotted quickly – and hurt your credibility.
- Be honest about workouts, career, and ambitions.
- True authenticity scores points – especially in the long run.
10. Forgetting to Say Thank You
- A sincere thank you makes a difference.
- Thanks for the time, the interest, and the conversation.
- It leaves a positive impression and shows maturity.
